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For these reasons, i recommend this book to every parent. Its written in question and answer format and covers all the most common concerns people have about respectful parenting. Discover book depositorys huge selection of advice on parenting books online. Discover book depositorys huge selection of alfie kohn books online. You will likely be tempted to resort to potentially damaging control methods. Alfie kohn is the author of nine previous books, including punished by. I highly recommend the following books to assist you in creating connection with your child. Alfie kohn writes and speaks widely on human behavior, education, and parenting. Jul 08, 2018 home blog a parents unconditional love. Kohn debunks many popular discipline strategies including timeouts, positive reinforcement and praise, reward systems, and punishment. Most parenting guides begin with the question how can we get kids to do what theyre told.
Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. Free delivery worldwide on over 20 million books we use cookies to give you the best possible experience. The concept of unconditional parenting appeals to me, the idea that we love our kids unconditionally. Last week alfie kohn, the author of unconditional parenting. Unconditional parenting by alfie kohn december 29, 2008 by rebecca reid while very few parents and parenting books still argue that corporal punishment will help turn out a wellbalanced child, most do propose timeouts, bribes, and praise as successful disciplining techniques for raising wellbehaved children. Mar 28, 2006 more than just another book about discipline, though, unconditional parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. The ten principles while these points of philosophy offer a helpful base for what alfie is trying to convey, i highly recommend visiting the alfie kohn website to read more of his work, or purchase the unconditional parenting dvd. Move away from rewards and punishment to love and reason. He lives actually in the boston area and virtually at. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason 1st atria books trade pbk.
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